Carol Platt Liebau: Homecoming vs. Hanging Out

Thursday, November 01, 2007

Homecoming vs. Hanging Out

Today in the Wall Street Journal, Jeff Zaslow talks about how homecoming is losing out to "hanging out" -- that is, boys are reluctant to commit to any formal dating relationship with girls.

Well, why should they? For now, America has tolerated a culture that teaches girls that being "sexy" is more important than intelligence, character or any other quality. Girls are getting the message that "empowerment" means having the right to be as sexually active as the stereotype of the worst kind of boy, and they've been encouraged by much of the culture to make themselves available at the drop of a hat.

Given this phenomenon, why, exactly would boys make the kinds of overtures including formally committing to dates, holding hands, or engaging in other romantic behaviors that were traditionally aimed at finding favor with girls? They already know that the girls are available, ready and waiting. Some female "liberation," isn't it?

I discuss all this in more depth in my book that's out tomorrow. Stay tuned.


Blogger Flag Gazer said...

Just finished listening to your interview on Captain's Quarters blog talk radio.

Great interview and interesting points you are making.

Thank you!

12:34 PM  
Blogger Dr.D said...

The shallowness of the current generation does not bode well for the future. There have always been women of easy virtue, available to any man or boy who really wanted such. The foolishness in today's young men that leads them to think that this is how you seek out a life companion is frightening; nothing could be further from the truth. In many respects, this is a very lonely world, and casual sex does nothing at all to easy that loneliness; in fact, it deepens the loneliness. Our children are digging themselves graves that they will have to live in throughout their lives. This is very sad.

2:32 PM  

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